Of all the Magic Moves you can make, this is one of the most magical ones. It seems so simple, but it is very profound.
The entire benefit of this Magic Move can be summed up in one sentence:
By raising your awareness, you put more and more space between who you fundamentally are and what you have gathered in terms of body/possessions and mind:
The more space you can create between who you fundamentally are and what you have gathered in terms of mind, body, or material stuff, the freer you become.
And the freer you become, the more life flows through you. Without strain or effort, it does what it was made to do all along.
It’s like electricity: it wants to flow, but the more resistance in the wire, the lower the current. Your job is not to make the current or the wire. Your job is to decrease the resistance.
Feelings of tension proceed from placing barriers that restrict our energy flow. We unconsciously build walls of resistance inside of us where there should be none. The tension will continue until we find out where and how we are settings up these barriers and remove them.
We must open the windows and tear down the walls to let in the light and some fresh air.
Create space to raise your awareness – examples
Once you are present enough to notice what is happening inside of you, you are already creating space between who you are and what you have gathered:
- Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, watch yourself feel sorry for yourself
- Instead of thinking negative thoughts, watch your mind think negative thoughts
- Instead of immersing yourself in physical pain, watch your body create the sensation of pain
Decreasing resistance by letting go
You thus raise your awareness by letting go of your material possessions, the contents of your body and mind, as if you are watching yourself as a spectator = from a third-person perspective.
You look at your possessions as just stuff that you have gathered. It’s not a part of who you are.
You watch the body be the body, no matter what it does. You don’t label anything as good or bad. You just compassionately observe.
You watch the mind be the mind, no matter what it thinks or how it makes you feel. You don’t label anything as good or bad. You just compassionately observe.
As you move through the process of letting go, you realize that you perceive anything as painful or unpleasant because of a mental or physical model you have. You are experiencing your life through those models. They color your perception and everyday experiences:
Letting go of these models can be a painful experience, but this is good pain. It is a necessary cleansing process. The pain is why you built your walls of resistance in the first place, to protect you from it.
But instead of a castle, you have built a prison for yourself. You set yourself free by becoming aware of your construction.
This process is not easy, but the more you do it, the richer your life experience becomes. Keep letting go to let in more light.
Whenever you have a negative experience, become aware that one of your inner models has been activated. Stay with the feeling of the incident, realize what your mind and body are doing, and let it slowly fade away. Don’t run from it, don’t fight it. Just sit with it. And it will lose power over you.
Don’t beat yourself up if it takes time to get the hang of this. Beating yourself up is the outcome of a mental model that you have that says you have to be able to succeed at something in a certain period!
You don’t. Just keep letting go.